Honest question – Why is being unhappy and cold the new trend?

No, like really! I’m genuinely curious to know why being unhappy and complaining about it is the new trend and popularity?

At the same time being happy is quietly like a taboo.
Or that if you’re happy you show off.

Pardon, what?

At first, when I noticed this, I thought I was imagining it. I was thinking like- maybe it just FEELS like that to me. And maybe I’m somehow sensitive about this topic.

But the more I read posts on Substack and looked around on other social media platforms, the more I realized that no. I haven’t misunderstood. And I’m not sensitive about this topic either.

This IS a new trend! And it’s starting to bother others too. By others, I mean those who don’t have this worldview/attitude.

Be cold! Don’t show your feelings! Manipulate! Dress as slutty as possible, that’s how you guarantee the best seduction technique! Don’t reply to people’s messages or wait several hours before responding! Say no to all invitations, because your time is the most important! And your time means doing too many different body treatments at home or just doomscrolling all evening.
Sleep with as many men as possible, because who says no!? We are free souls!
You definitely need to communicate with several men at the same time! If you don’t do this, then you put too much pressure on one man!

I could stay here writing this list.

Sorry, but. Who hurt you so much that you gave birth to (meaning – people themselves created such a version of themselves) an emotionally unavailable and mentally self-destructive person?

At the same time, people’s anxiety levels, panic attacks, depression, and other mental illnesses are catastrophically high.

All of this could be significantly, SIGNIFICANTLY, reduced if people would simply communicate FACE TO FACE with other people. And be sincere and heartfelt. And OPENLY!

“Our dating culture is fucked up.”
Interesting, interesting, who screwed this up!? The people themselves!

Men are complete pigs and manipulators! We hate men!

You, women, do you understand that you yourself are shaping today’s men into even more with such characteristics? With your slutty behavior and coldness? That one reflects the other in return? That evil here breeds even more evil and coldness?

And men! This applies to you exactly the same!

And then somewhere on the side are those few who are truly happy. Who genuinely enjoy their lives. It doesn’t even have to be anything big.

But they enjoy their lives.
They are happy.
Maybe even in a loving relationship.

And then people look at them like three-headed dragons and comment behind their backs that “They can’t have it all! No one is that happy! Of course, this man is cheating on her and she’s only after money!”

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Who hurt you!? No, like sincerely.

Where did people suddenly come from who are so damn broken that they advocate a self-destructive life?
What’s weirdest is that it’s not just popular among 20-somethings, but also older people.

What happened to healing our broken parts and actually enjoying life in real-time, not somewhere in a virtual world?

And since when are all men living on planet Earth assholes? Or since when are all women evil snakes and sluts?

And if you’re reading this and thinking that it’s not that bad, you’re exaggerating, Agnes.
Well. Obviously, not all people have this attitude.

It’s just that the rule here is that whoever shouts the loudest gets noticed more.
And right now, this attitude is screaming very loudly everywhere.

Since truly happy people don’t go around shouting “I’M SO HAPPY! LOOK AT ME!” then well, you get my point.

So for a while now, I’m going to consciously write about both small and big things here and there where and why I’m truly happy. Well, to even out this screaming inequality a bit 🤭☺️. Because who can stop me? 😌