Krapsakas

I woke up in a good mood today, but it seems that in the middle of the day, the saltiness that had been crouching and gathering momentum in my soul for years finally decided to come out of me 😄.

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But if you want to hear a rant and I guess you could say a proper call-out, whining, but also support, then here we go bitch! 😄

Before I write any further, let it be said that I have also been that little bitch, empty soul, “life is so meaningless” type of person.
So this topic is not foreign to me.

And when I say “Bitch” here in the text, which is intended for you, the reader. Then I mean it as “sweetheart”.
Affectionately 😄.

When 2016 turned into 2017, I promised myself that I would no longer continue this old, empty life.
At that time, I was 21-22 years old. And the last few years I had lived a work-home-grocery store-work-home repeat.
I did have a partner and a seemingly “happy life”.
But inside, everything was super empty.

I clearly remember one day when I was sitting under the window at the computer and my partner was sitting on the couch at the other end of the room watching TV.

I was terribly bored. Like life in general was boring at that time.

And it didn’t fit my character at all, because since I was little I was the one who climbed trees, adventured in the forest, went and explored new places and enjoyed life.
I believe that at that time you could say that Spontaneous was my middle name.
Everything new has always attracted me.
Spontaneous road trips – I’m in!
Let’s go swimming- I’m in!
Let’s go explore neighboring countries- yes, please!
Etc.

I looked at my partner and said: “Our life is so boring. Why don’t we do anything? Why don’t we discover the world? Travel around?”
-Let’s mention here that sometimes we went out somewhere (I don’t mean parties), but most of the time we didn’t do anything together and we also didn’t discuss real-life topics with each other, and our worldviews and attitudes to life were radically different-

My partner looked at me blankly and said with the most sincere thought:
“But that’s life. You go to work. You’re at home. In between, you rarely go out. You drink alcohol on the weekend. That’s normal.”

Bitch! What!?

I remember looking at him and thinking wtf!? Man, WHAT are you telling me? Hell no, that’s just how life is. That’s normal. Definitely not!

At the turn of the year 2016/2017, I promised myself that I would change my life!
I didn’t know exactly how at that moment, but one thing was for sure – I would go and learn something more at school. And in the fall of 2017, I went to study Business Administration, which I successfully graduated from 2 years later.
Which, in retrospect, was a turning point, after which all the people, activities, and attitudes that had outlived their time began to fall out of my life.

What has made me so salty right now-
Oh my god, how these little whiners are quietly driving me crazy 😵‍💫.
I’ve been very patient with people like that for the last few years, but today for some reason my patience ran out.
I just can’t stand seeing it everywhere in real life.
And yes, I’ve tried to change my real life, as well as my virtual life, so that there would be more people like me, not like the ones you can read about in the examples.
But damn, when whiners shout louder than people with a healthy attitude, it’s hard to see these healthy and happy people.

If you’re one of those who has the attitude “There are no problems, only solutions” and you feel that our vibe is similar, then come say Hi!
Maybe we’ll become acquaintances, friends. Who knows!

Allowed examples:

“I wasted my twenties”.
I’ve been seeing a lot of posts with this exact title lately 🙄.
I’m just mentioning if you didn’t already know that youth is all about experimenting, trying, making mistakes, and ultimately learning from them.
God knows HOW many mistakes I made in my twenties and sometimes I still fell flat on my face. But hey! I’m more experienced in different topics now 😄. And whether we like it or not, we make mistakes and “waste” our time as older people too. So honey, enjoy life and don’t give up! 😀

“Men are stupid and now I’m a lesbian!”.
Like literally! I’ve seen so many women who became lesbians simply because men are supposed to be pigs. They tried dating women for fun and it seemed “fun” and then they stuck with women.
At the same time not being so happy (deep down) and eventually returning to men.
Like! Don’t get me wrong! If you feel such an enormously deep primal calling for a woman in your soul, please! Go be with a woman. I have nothing against it.
But if you choose to be with a woman because some man or men wronged you, then I’m sorry, but you’re just running away from your pain and using a temporary band-aid.

“Life is so boring! To make it more exciting, I just hang out with everyone. I drink until I black out and sometimes I do drugs! Wow! That’s life!”
Well, life IS boring when you don’t know what you like or don’t like. And when you don’t even try to find answers to these questions. When was the last time you took the time to get to know yourself in a new field?
When was the last time you went to nature or some “boring” place where there is actually a lot to discover? When was the last time you listened to your own thoughts without noise and constant chatter?

Oh! And please don’t forget those fake chicks who are on social media
“Oh my god! My life is so beautiful!”.
While wearing as many flashy brand products as they can from head to toe.
When you ask these people a more personal question or discuss life. Well, just in general. Then they can’t really say anything. Sad really.

Can we please stop planet Earth for a moment, I would like to step down 🙂.

What happened to us being real people?
What happened to human interaction?
What happened to conquering the world, in a good way?
What happened to positivity and joy and heartfelt laughter? Where has it gone?
Since when does only negativity and bullshit sell?
What happened to people who worked hard to make their own lives better and to make society a better place?
When did we forget that WE can change the world?
When did we forget the ant effect? ​​That when one person starts an action, another joins in, then a third, and eventually there are so many of us that we can REALLY change things?
Where has that gone in the bigger picture?

Obviously, the world is fucked up. There are a lot of wars, the economy is fucked up, one country’s politics are worse than another, etc.

But we still have our right to decide HOW we CONSCIOUSLY CHOOSE to approach life.

If you are a visual or audio learner, I recommend watching on Youtube Yes Theory‘s videos from the last year or so.

They travel to places where sometimes people have nothing compared to today’s hyper-modern life.
Sidenote – they have a lot of content with a healthy attitude to life in the videos they have made there in recent years. Worth watching.

Do you know what the constant common thread in these videos is?

People there are kind, happy, friendly and open. They are happy with what they have. Even when it is not much. And they do not sit head over heels in front of the screen and complain about how they do not have a life (a lot of money, friends, a partner, etc.).

I do not doubt that even these happy people have their unhappy days, where they think more negatively. But at the end of the day, what matters is the attitude you live with.

Is it:

a) Life sucks. Politics sucks. People die in wars every day. There is no money. There are no friends. Anxiety is the best friend. Etc.

b) Life is not a bed of roses every day, but I am safe. I have food. I can look around on the Internet, but I do not have to. I can go outside and breathe fresh air. I can cook my own food. I choose to help other people. Etc.

I don’t think we should get anxious, depressed, or angry because wars are going on in different parts of the world today and people are dying.
It IS sad, it shouldn’t be happening at all!
But adding sadness or anger to it won’t help these people.
If you want to help these people, I’m more than sure that if you do some research on this subject, you will find a suitable way/ possible way to help the victims and sufferers of war.

I also don’t think we should now push all modernity out of our lives.
However, we could get our feet out from under our asses and change our lives OURSELVES.
Take responsibility for your own life, not wait for the state or a mystical “someone” to come and help you.

Look. The thing is, as long as you don’t ask, the answer is always “no.”

As long as you don’t touch the doorknob, the door is always closed.

As long as YOU don’t choose to change your life, nothing will change.
Let’s be honest, you’re so used to this life that you don’t even bother to change it. It’s easy to live the life you’re used to living. Even if it’s a lot of discomfort or who knows what negative aspects.
It’s easier to whine than to take charge and start taking steps in a completely different direction.

And let it be said, I’ve been in that boat!
This is not just finger-pointing.
I know what it’s like to sit in anxiety. Hoping that maybe someone will magically walk through the door and lift me out of this life.

Well. Actually, this “magical something” does exist. It’s the feeling when you can’t take it anymore. You can’t live this negative life anymore.
You can’t stand this topic or person that bothers you so much anymore.
When you’ve been pushed to the limit, you start to move.

But, my dear, here’s a reminder for you – you don’t always have to be pushed to the limit. You can start consciously making better choices before you reach the limit.

Anyway! So what do you do?
Will you choose option A or option B?

One thing is for sure, life is about feeling emotions, making mistakes (and learning from them), and making memories.
So get your feet out of your asses and GET TO ACTION!

See you later, alligator! 😘